THE DEGREE TO WHICH SOCIETY’S MORALITY IS ERODING IS STUNNING

One in four people do not think a one-night stand is cheating.

Online activities, like maintaining an active online dating profile while in a relationship or following an ex on social media, are blurring the lines of fidelity, making it difficult for individuals and couples to decide what counts as cheating, according to a new Deseret News poll on national attitudes about adultery.

Roughly three quarters of Americans agree that having sex or kissing someone other than your partner is always cheating, but they bring less clarity to questions about online and other non-physical activities.

For example, 51 percent say sending flirtatious messages is always cheating, 19 percent say the same about watching pornography without a partner and 16 percent say following an ex on social media is always cheating. But in each of these cases, at least 25 percent of respondents say these activities “sometimes” constitute cheating.

New technologies muddle old assumptions about adultery, creating a gray area that couples can struggle to navigate together, said Katherine Hertlein, a therapist and professor at the University of Nevada, Las Vegas, who studies how technology affects family life.

“I’m very surprised when I ask a couple about their definition of infidelity during premarital counseling and they respond, ‘What are you talking about? It means physically touching someone else,'” she said. “I tell them they need to wake up. It’s 2017!”

The survey also found a deep gender divide on what constitutes adultery, with women more likely than men to define 11 behaviors on the survey as cheating. The gap was especially large on activities enabled by the internet, such as maintaining an online dating profile, which 70 percent of women but only 55 percent of men say is always cheating.

The Deseret News poll was conducted by Y2 Analytics and YouGov from March 17-19, 2017. It includes responses from 1,000 U.S. adults and an oversample of 250 Mormons and has a margin of error of 3.1 percent. The survey is a key component to the Deseret News’ annual Ten Today project exploring the relevance of the Ten Commandments in modern life.

What counts as cheating?

On the seventh commandment of “Thou shalt not commit adultery,” millennials are generally less strict than their elders, according to the poll, though there are some issues on which they are stricter than Generation X. There are also significant differences of opinion among members of different faiths. Evangelicals and Mormons consistently stand out, including on the question of whether going to dinner with someone you are attracted to would be considered cheating — an issue brought into the spotlight last month when Vice President Mike Pence sparked confusion and even outrage in some circles over a 2002 interview in which he said he avoids being alone with women other than his wife to avoid the temptation and appearance of infidelity. (continue reading….)

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One Response to THE DEGREE TO WHICH SOCIETY’S MORALITY IS ERODING IS STUNNING

  1. bogsidebunny says:

    I have to admit when I was single in the 1970’s and 1980’s I had many a one night stands, but as far as I can remember only one was with a disgruntled married woman. In all the years of my married life I’ve looked and lusted but I’ve never allowed the brain in my dick over whelm the common sense brain in my cranium. Now I’m “separated” and in my mid 70’s I’m looking but the 25 to 30 year olds with great bodies and pretty faces just laugh at my “complementary quips.

    Now on another note. I just came back from a short trip to the local supermarket. The sky is cloudless and the temperature is in the 80’s. Needless I was able to gape a lot of female flesh. But that’s leads to my question of the day:

    Why does a 5-foot-3-inch 350 pound 35 year old mama dragging around 4 screaming under 5 yr old brats and whose hair is Day-Glo orange think a 9 inch multi colored dragon tattoo on her calf, which by the way has the same diameter as my waist, think it makes them attractive?

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